The One Alzheimer's Care Tip that will Change your Life

Don’t try to fix them
When caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia, caregivers instinctively try to bring them back into reality by remind them of the truth or asking them to remember things. What most caregivers don’t know is that this approach often causes anger or agitation.Your intentions are good. You think you can help your older adult get back to normal if you remind them about things or explain what’s real. But the reality is, getting back to normal just isn’t going to happen no matter how hard you try.

Having Alzheimer’s or dementia is a scary and confusing experience for your older adult. Using logic and reason to explain why you’re right and they’re wrong will only cause them to get more confused, agitated, defensive, and act out with difficult behavior.

Tips on how to respond

So, how can you help prevent your older adult from getting more upset or behaving in difficult ways? Here are some tips we learned from an expert Alzheimer’s support group leader.

DON’T:

  • Respond with logic and reason
  • Pay strict attention to their words – they may not actually mean what they say
  • Keep trying to convince them to see or do things your way
  • Say “Don’t you remember?”
  • Say “No, you’re wrong.”
  • Say “Don’t do that.”
  • Tell them that people they’re talking about or waiting to see are already deceased
  • DO:

  • Respond to the emotion or intention behind the words
  • Distract them with an activity they enjoy
  • Redirect the conversation to a pleasant, positive, or neutral topic
  • Use therapeutic fibbing – agree with things that aren’t true or bend the truth in harmless ways if it calms the situation
  • Without words, find ways to assure them that they’re safe and cared for – hugs or gentle touching often works well
  • Don’t be discouraged if your attempts to soothe or redirect don’t work every time! This is a skill that improves with practice. In time, you’ll figure out what works best for your senior.

    Why this approach works better
    When you pay attention to the situation and emotions rather than the words, it helps you uncover your senior’s true needs. Instead of arguing, shift the mood to something more calm and positive. You’ll thank yourself when you don’t have to get into the same screaming match for the 38th time.

    This post was submitted by DailyCaring Editorial Staff.

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